HAPPY MUSINGS
Happy Musings is a newspaper feature syndicated by King Features that I create each day to remind us all that “Life is wonderful!” I offer it here to brighten your day. Please share it with your friends.
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09/25/08 (Life)
Feelin' Perfect? Why not?
"Feeling perfect is the perfect way to feel."
If you had a choice of how to feel, how would you feel? Perfect, I’ll bet. Why not? If perfect were an option, wouldn’t you pick it? No reason to pick anything else.
Pretend you have that option. Then perfect is the perfect way to feel. And since you are the picker, why wouldn’t you pick it all the time? Your heart would agree, but perhaps your head would have some hesitation, some hang-ups, something that has to done or has to happen before you allow yourself to feel perfect. I say, knock yourself in the head and tell your rational mind to take a hike. Tell it to come back when it has a better attitude. Go for the gold! Go for perfection right now.
I don’t know where I learned the importance of this or how to do this. But, I’ve felt this way for quite a long time. Of course, I have forgotten here and there along the way, but then life comes along and knocks some sense into me and back I go feeling perfect again.
I remember knowing this truth long ago when I was in my twenties. I was happy-go-lucky living with little and loving life to its fullest. I had been invited to play in a pro-celebrity tennis tournament in Carmel, hosted by Clint Eastwood. It was held at the famous Pebble Beach Country Club. The grounds were lovely; the sky was blue; the play was fun.
Between matches I wandered over to a woman who was sitting by herself watching some warm up tennis. She had a cast on her leg. As we chatted she revealed how depressed and unhappy she was with her broken leg. It prevented her from going and doing as she usually did. It limited her. She felt sad and miserable. I told her that all she had to do to heal herself was to feel joy. It made perfect sense to me. What difference did it make if she were in a cast or not? She could still feel wonderful. She could still feel perfect. I left her with that thought.
Today I sat with a Nigerian man at a luncheon. It was a charity event to benefit the children of Nigeria – a special school for girls. My table mate said that no matter how little the Nigerian people had and the suffering they endured, they still remained happy. Yet, he pointed out, that Americans in general had plenty, but were still not happy. Proving once again, that happiness or the state of perfection does not depend on things, but on people.
Whether you have or have not, perfect is the perfect way to feel!
I pick perfect all the time.
09/15/08 (Life)
 Don't Forget Happiness!
"Happiness does not come uninvited. It needs to be the guest of honor."
Yep, if you put happiness first, the rest falls into place. That does not mean “pleasure happiness”, but true happiness. We are always doing it the other way round – trying to get everything in place in order to be happy. Why miss all that time in the process? “Happiness Now” is the way to go – the happiness that is not dependent on outside circumstances!
I believe happiness does need to be invited into one’s life. There is always plenty of room for it. If not, push some other things out of the way to make room. In fact a welcoming committee of all aspects of your being could band together to create a great welcoming party. Then once it shows up, make it the honored guest, so honored that it will never want to leave.
It is almost a life exercise to maintain this state. It seems like it is a state one step above everyday life which goes up and down. Happiness is above the clouds and winds and rains. It is steady and consistent. And it is reassuring to know that we have control over it. It never turns down an invitation. We just have to remember to open the door. I think of all the friends to have, happiness is the best.
A moment without happiness is a moment lost. Don’t waste a moment.
09/09/08 (Life)
Crystal Clear Goals
"Make your goals crystal clear and clearly they will become crystallized -- provided life doesn't have something better in mind."
Ummm! This is a very good thing to know – to “make your goals crystal clear and clearly they will become crystallized.” But the second part of this is equally important – “provided life doesn’t have something better in mind.” It’s best to remember that life is always looking out for us. And, although we want what we want, we may not get exactly what we want. It might just be better.
At one point in my life I was very fixated on this “getting exactly what you want idea” as many people are today. At the same time I was preparing a thought-a-day calendar for American Greetings in which I included this thought – without the second part. After the calendar was published I showed it to a friend of mine who is a very wise woman. She turned the pages slowly, absorbing the thoughts and commented on the art. She smiles. She chuckled. Then she stopped. “This is not right,” she said pointing to exactly this statement. “You are dealing with truth here and you must be exact.” Then she proceeded to put me right. “Yes, make your goals crystal clear, but life has a say in things and it may not be for your best interest or others’ best interest that your goal be manifested as you design it.”
That’s when I created the second part of this saying, “providing life doesn’t have something better in mind.”
A dear friend of mind just went through a common exercise in job hunting. She found an opportunity that seemed just right for her, she thought. The job would involve many of the things she likes to do – event planning, working with all kinds of people, traveling. She prayed for this job. She drooled over this job. She imagined her life wrapped around it. She wanted it more than she had wanted anything. But, alas, someone else was chosen because that person had more job experience in the needed areas. What we talked about after she recovered from her disappointment was that she needed to get some experience in those areas herself by not starting at the top but working her way up.
Getting a particular job or a particular man or anything else involves many elements, wants and goals all around. What I have found is that what eventually happens, happens for the best. With a little time, looking back at a previous disappointment may look like the greatest break we could have had. There we are, back again needing to trust life.
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